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This
week's answer:
Avoiding
the Avoiders of Honesty
Advice that will help you keep from
finding where this producer lives (and eats and goes to
the gym, etc.) and taking the air out of his or her
Mercedes’ tires?
Advice to keep you from disintegrating your
insides with rage towards someone who doesn’t have the
decency to honor an agreement, especially after he’s
exploited you and your talent? Advice to learn how
to deal with these gutless, manipulating, false,
devious, envious, “talentless,” greedy vampires of
the entertainment industry?
Is that the kind of advice you seek, sincere one?
If so, I think I might have a word
to say on the subject.
Let’s make it two words, shall we?
Avoid
them.
Don’t resist them.
Don’t try to manipulate back.
Don’t even try to finesse them.
Just...
Avoid
them.
That’s really all that there is
to say on the matter.
Oh, wait. Here’s
an addendum.
At
all costs.
Now, that’s it.
Avoid
them at all costs.
The reason for the additional
words, “at all costs” is because, if you DON’T
avoid them, it will cost you. And cost you plenty. It
will cost you your time... your energy... most likely,
even money... and, probably most importantly, it will
cost you your sanity.
And let’s not forget your extremely important
commodity: your
creativity.
MM’s (master manipulators) know
how to take advantage of somebody who doesn’t see them
coming. And
we usually don’t.
MM’s usually leave their victims in the mud,
bleeding, wondering, “what the heck happened here?”
They smile at you as you think you found somebody
who’s really listening and caring about you and your
work. But
what they’re actually doing is silently sizing you up,
looking for your weakness, your “wink link” where
they can pounce, get inside your boundaries, and start
to internally tear you apart within your fortress, where
they can lessen your self-confidence and belief in your
art and yourself. When
you think you’re negotiating and looking for the
“win/win” solution, they’re deceptively trying to
figure out how to bring about “win/lose.”
And they don’t plan on doing anything but
winning. You
think you’re in an honest conversation that is based
on each of you listening to your needs, responding,
seeking how to find a way, while all along the MM is
conniving constantly, only listening to his needs, and,
pretending to want to work things out, always trying to
get you to give up as much as possible and receive as
little as possible.
The unfortunate truth is that there
are many charlatans and takers that live in the
entertainment world.
There ARE dishonest producers.
But, once you except this fact, you’ll be
better equipped so as to be able to detect them and,
thus, avoid them.
But take heart, talented one. There’s good news on the way.
To help you not be victimized any longer, I’m
just about finished with my new invention, The Master
Manipulator Detector. The infomercial will be out in December, just in time for
Christmas. But, if
you act now and send me only $4,000 to my Paypal
account, I’ll put you on the waiting list to receive
one as soon as it’s ready.
Not really.
I just wanted to see if you "saw me
coming."
DcH
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